This post was sort of requested, I was chatting on Twitter with Maria from Amriaa’s Blog, about random stuff and my upcoming anniversary came up. She agreed I should write up a post about it. So here it is, I’m going to write it up first, and then I think have hubs go through and add his thoughts to it as well. Hub’s posts will be blue.
Hubs and I met in September of 2003, while driving down the road. I was in the car with my friend and he was driving this beat ass thing that was seriously burning a ton of oil. We flirted back and forth going down the road, (I know, safe driving right) then he stopped at a gas station, and so did we.
Yep. I was totally on the way to see a female friend of mine a few towns over. However, my truck was NOT “beat ass”. It was a darned near mint 1976 Ford F150 4×4 with a bored out 400M, Edelbrock aluminum intake manifold and Edelbrock 4bbl carb. Yes, it was smoking, but only because the rear seal on the manifold had a little hole in it.. I called it the mosquito fogger and assumed I was helping to prevent malaria.
We chatted and exchanged numbers, and ended up having dinner that night I believe, his wing man came with us so my friend wouldn’t be alone. Hubs had to pay for their dinner, because they both kind of sucked! We never went out to dinner with them again! My future hubs was such a nice person, it helped that he was super sexy in his uniform!! >:) Yorp. Both of the “friends” were idiots. Llewsoba likes to taunt me by saying “You could have ended up with “friend”, and my only answer is… No, that was NEVER an option, it was always going to be you!
We only dated for about 3 months, before getting married. Not a whole lot of thinking going on between the two of us at that time. We had motives for getting married, but after ten years they don’t matter anymore.. now do they? My only motive was keeping your fine self on lock!
4-6 months after that we found out that I was pregnant with what was soon to be, the greatest kid ever!!! Yeah, he’s going to be a pretty awesome dude. We did have a few rough years after that, I didn’t handle pregnancy well at all.. or anything for that matter. Hubs put up with a lot of psycho bitch, so a round of applause for him not murdering me. >:)
Every relationship has it’s peaks and valleys. Anyone who pines for “the perfect one” or what-the-hell-ever is over thinking it. Marriage is hard. Shit, it has times when it feels like hell on earth. But, you put your head down, push through it, and work together to find common ground. Sure, everyone wants to believe it’s the other person’s fault, but going into things with a me-first mindset is setting themselves up for failure. No applause for not murdering you, that’s just part of the process.
It really has been an interesting ten years, I think I can say we have been through more than most married people go through in 25 years.
Agreed. Deployments, war, mistakes, separations, reconciliations, brokeness, prosperity, politics, religion, childbirth, child rearing, all of the burnt ass food you made that first year.. trust me guys… it was BAD! All of that makes life interesting and worth living. If you don’t routinely break a (fear OR anger) sweat in the first few years, there might not be enough chemistry to keep you interested for the long haul.
…but here we are, looking at the next ten and it seems so easy now. Taking all the things we have learned from MANY, MANY mistakes and coasting through the next ten like some pro’s!!
See above. My comments are out of sequence.. Lmao. But yeah, thanks for keeping life interesting and keeping me sharp.
I love you husband!! xoxo
You’d better love me, you’re stuck with me now! Oh, and babe…. You’re the best thing that’s ever happened to me. I love everything about you, even when I don’t agree with something. You complete me in the weirdest way, and that’s the best part of it all.
Thanks for reading! 😀